How to Have a Healthier Body Image

What are your thoughts on your body? Is the first thing that comes to mind that you like it? Or even love your body?

A poor body image can affect someone in many ways, like work performances, in relationships and even in your overall life. Many times people have specific parts of their bodies that they don’t like, it can be something “small”, like their lips or nose. Or it can be the legs, arms or tummy. 

If you asked 100 people about what they don’t like about themselves, you would probably get a pretty long list. 

I hope that will change in the future.

So why do so many people have an unhealthy body image? 

If you want someone or something to blame for having a poor body image, you could blame it on the upbringing (maybe a family member said something about a specific body part, or that certain body parts should look a specific way) or maybe you would blame it on the media, which never seems to get enough of publishing how to get the “perfect” body. 

Certain celebrities make a living advertising diet products, most of the times it is products they don’t even use themselves and sometimes those teas/shakes/whatever can actually be dangerous for your digestive system.

Anyway, the point is not to talk too much about the bad side of this subject. I want to give you ideas on how to get a better body image. 

And who wouldn’t want to feel better about their body?

But before that, remember that there is no such thing as the “perfect” body. There have always been ideals, but those ideals have changed with time and will keep on changing.

Here are some ideas to have a healthier body image:

Remember what your body is able to do. Studying biology and all the functions of your body can help you see that. Every part of your body have an important job to do, and it’s working its ass off to stay alive and healthy. So look at your body like a friend that is keeping you alive instead of focusing on how it looks.

Give yourself compliments. Decide every day to look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself three compliments. And if you have had a bad day and think bad thoughts about your physical appearance, you have to apologize to yourself and give yourself compliments instead. 

You probably wouldn’t say rude things about your friend’s appearance, so why do you do that to yourself? Stop it. Treat yourself the way you would your best friend. 

Focus on being healthy. A healthy body is way more important than a good looking body. Please don’t change your body into something that it is not, just because society/celebrities/family members/friends thinks so. Cut those influences out of your life. I once knew a girl who were told from an early age how women were “supposed” to look like. She ended up doing operations to look that way and contemplated starting to wear corsets. I tried to talk her out of it, but I know that it can be very difficult to change your views if you have been subjected to something that much in your past. 

Try to shift your mindset of the way your body looks to taking care of it instead. And by the way, if you’re healthy, you get kind of a glow, and that is gorgeous. And you will be happier. And happiness is awesome. 

Do a social media detox. Remove/unfollow those bad influences who only post heavily edited images of themselves or “perfect” looking pictures. Instead, follow real people who are open and honest. We all know how easy it is to use filters. Stop doing it and stop trying to look like something that is not you. If you constantly try to change your looks because you don’t think your pretty/skinny/fit/whatever enough on social media, how are you supposed to feel good in real life?

Choose your inner circle wisely. Hang out with people who truly care about you and are in no way shaming you. Not they way you look, or what you do. Spend time with those who will lift you, bring you good energy and support you. 

I’m absolutely not saying that this is easy, it takes a lot of work. But I believe that if we start to take care of ourselves and be kind to ourselves, no matter how we think we look or what we think we deserve, the future will be better. For all of us.

Do you have any suggestions on how to have a healthier body image? Please share in the comments! ❤

And if you are looking for my e-book How to Find Inspiration you can find it through the link here!

Why We Buy Stuff We Don’t Need

Haven’t we all, at one time or another, found ourselves looking at a thing that we’ve just bought and found no reason for its existence in our lives?

We don’t always buy things rationally, but what exactly is the reason for this phenomenon?

Well, there is something called behavioral economics, which is a psychological field where you study the decision-making regarding purchases. So let’s put it this way, you bought something that afterwards made no sense for you to buy. Classical economics have a model of rational action, which says that before you buy anything, you weigh the pros and cons of the of the potential purchases and then base your decision on the one with the best outcome. Behavioral economics, on the other hand, says that this rational decision process rarely happens with people. Humans are complex creatures with emotions and biases and therefore can often make choices which are not in their best interest in the longer run.

When it comes to economics, we have probably made a few (to say the least) confused and irrational decisions. I know I have bought clothes a couple of times that I didn’t need, nor ended up liking. These purchases happened when there was a good deal, blinding me to make a rational choice. I know, I am one of those who loves a good deal. But it really isn’t a good deal if you won’t end up using it.

When it comes to clothes, I now make a point of only buying the items that I instantly like or love and know I will be using.

Actually, many of the choices we make are made under conditions with uncertainty and you’re not aware of every benefit or risk that comes with it. Sometimes, those risks and benefits can also be shifting, making it even harder to choose “right”.

With behavioral economics, you can reach a better understanding of the effects regarding uncertainty in decision-making when it comes to financial savings and consumer purchasing. So try to think before you make your next purchase – is it really something that will be useful or that you really want?

If not, go home and be happy you still have that money left in your wallet. Yay!

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If you are looking for the link to my e-book How to Find Inspiration, you can find it here!

The Benefits of a Gratitude Journal

Remind yourself of the last time you felt truly grateful for something. Was it about a person in your life, being able to run or the kind gesture of a stranger?

Being grateful for something can come in many different shapes and forms. Gratitude is the emotion you express for something you appreciate having or getting. It’s about recognizing the value of something without its monetary worth. It can be described as a spontaneously feeling or an affirmation of goodness, it starts with noticing the good in your life.

The opposite of gratitude – and what one might call “thieves of gratitude” – are narcissism, envy and cynicism. A culture of materialism, which is all about instant gratification, and seeing things as the source of happiness and constantly wanting new stuff is the opposite of being grateful for what you have. (This is bad, in case someone was wondering.)

Although gratitude in itself is a spontaneous emotion, research show that you can live a happier life by consciously make efforts to count your blessings. It is possible to train your brain to experience this wonderful feeling – and there are several personal and social benefits to do so. Yay!

You can feel grateful for your life in general, having a job and a stable income, your family, your pet (well ok – I know they’re family), colleagues, friends, nature and your health. This gratitude will impact your life, both on the inside and on the outside.

Appreciation boosts your happiness and will make a difference for both your physical and mental health. This applies even to those who might struggle with depression, or other mental issues. Over time, the effects of gratitude will snowball and, in a way, pay itself forward. Amazing, right?!

So go ahead – start a gratitude journal.

Write down three things each day that you are grateful for, no matter how big or small. Do this every day.

If you do it in the evening before going to bed you’ll probably sleep better since you’re focused on what’s made you happy during the day, instead of the stressful things that might have occurred.

What are you grateful for today?


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What to do When Stuck at Home

Most of us have now experienced the toll that social distancing has taken on our minds. Although you feel like you would really, really love to get out and visit your friends and family, that may not be realistic and safe. In my previous blog post I wrote about not going insane and you may recognize some of my ideas from that post, but let me present to you a longer, more varied list to help you stay sane.

So if you’re stuck at home, here is a list of things you can do in the meantime:

Read good books. I mean, what would be the point of reading bad books? None, really. Some of my favorite books include How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People by Elizabeth B. Brown (not that I’m living with a screwed-up person – it’s just an interesting book on how to handle difficult ones).

Watch good video clips. Like on YouTube, or why not Ted Talks. There are tons of inspiring stuff out there, no need to watch depressing sh*t.

Take naps. They are awesome. If you’ve got nothing better to do, the nap is here for you.

Make a kick-ass playlist with your favorite songs and dance around your house.

Take a shower/bath. It will relax you and help you feel less stressed about being stuck. Just try not to think too much about being stuck.

Clean. Everything.

Yes – even those drawers where you put all of your utensils. If you have a big house you could be occupied for weeks. Make sure you get every single speck of dust.

Play with a pet. Doesn’t even have to be your own.

Bake stuff. Bread, cookies, cakes. Maybe you’ll start a bakery when this is all over.

Rearrange furniture. You could basically, perhaps, live in a new house by the time you’re allowed to have friends over again.

Video chat with loved ones.

Experiment with make-up. And hair styles. But maybe don’t do anything radical you might regret, like cutting your hair yourself.

Sing for your neighbors. You know, this is the perfect time. Since social distancing is advised the literally cannot force you to stop. So go on, use those pipes!

Create your own workout program. It can be as ridiculous as you choose. The important thing is to get moving and up from the comfy couch.

Have spa nights. Self-care, people! It’s more important than ever. And you can do it over and over and over again.

While you’re at it, light those candles up!

Make lists of what you’re going to do when all of this is over.

There you have it! And if you do want a good book to read you can always download the digital version of How to Find Inspiration right here:

Take care and stay safe!

The e-book of How to Find Inspiration is available here!

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How to Stay Sane While Isolated

I know most of you are in some way affected by this Corona crisis. Many of you are living in quarantine and being isolated.

Even if you’re not, you’re probably staying away from meeting up with friends and family for a while. So what can you do during this crazy time to stay sane?

Here’s a few ideas:

Reach out to your friends, family or neighbours and ask how they’re doing. Call them, or even better, video chat to see their faces. It makes a difference and I’m sure they would love to see you, even if it’s just through a screen.

Read good books. No surprise this is coming from yours truly. Personally, I’m reading a book about body languge, but I do have many books in my shelves to go through.

Don’t fall into the dark pit of the media. Seriously, how many times do you really want to be reminded of how many people are currently infected/has died? It’s not good for your mental health, so please, try to limit your intake of bad news.

Do continue to take showers. Even if you live alone and others won’t be disturbed by your smell, you will feel better if you take care of yourself.

Get some daily exercise. If you move enough to break a sweat for about 20 minutes, your brain will release happy hormones which will make you feel – that’s right – happier! If you can’t go outside, check out online classes or make up your own routine.

Take a walk in a park or forest if you can go outside. Something called forestbathing is amazing for your mental health and will, like working out, release those happy hormones.

Watch good movies/tv-series. By good I mean those that will make you feel happier. Here are some links to the lists of my personal favorites:

Inspiring Movies Part 1: https://howtofindinspiration.com/inspiring-movies-part-1/

Inspiring Movies Part 2: https://howtofindinspiration.com/inspiring-movies-part-2/

Inspiring TV-Series: https://howtofindinspiration.com/inspiring-tv-series/

Do you have any tips on what to do while isolated? Please share in the comments.

Sending you lots of love!

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The e-book of How to Find Inspiration is available here!

How to Find Inspiration – The Release

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It’s finally here! How to Find Inspiration was published on June 16th and it feels incredible, surreal and so very exciting. I’ve been moved by the response I’ve gotten from it so far and I’m truly grateful for all of your kind words!

If you haven’t heard of it yet feel free to check out the website here and follow the official account on Instagram here!

If you already know you want to get it you can click here: Buy now!

On another note, this summer I’ll be traveling to Califorina to create photos for a different book. Have you been there and what was your favorite place? I’d love to hear your recommendations!

How to Find Inspiration – The Book

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For the past year I’ve been working on my very own first book. It’s about different ways you can find inspiration and I’ve put a lot of time and research into it so that you won’t have to. I ended up with 100 ideas – but of course you can pick and choose the ones you’d like to try for yourself.

I’m very excited to announce that How to Find Inspiration will be available on June 16th!

Here is a bit of information about it:

 

”Do you often get that wonderful, exciting feeling of overwhelming inspiration? Do you often find yourself in different situations where this happens? Does this feeling occur to you naturally on a day-to-day basis?

Well, then you won’t need this book. I am truly very happy for you and wish you continued, eternal inspiration (you mythical creature)!
However, if you are not one of these few, unworldly people out there, this is the book for you!

100 fun, creative and easy-to-do ideas combined with inspirational quotes from – you guessed it! – inspirational people will lead you where you need to be in order to get your inspiration back on track.

The book does not only contain 100 inspirational ideas, it is also filled with photographs, thought-worthy quotes and some psychological aspects.

There are ideas for those wanting more adventure in their lives as well as for those who prefer to keep it simple.”

 

You can find out more about the book here

and check out the official Instagram profile here

 

The countdown has begun!

How to Find Inspiration will be available on the 16th of June!

Favourites of 2018

2018 was a truly interesting year. A lot happened; I got to photograph and meet amazing and wonderful new and old people, some which I’ve known for years. I wrote my first book about finding inspiration, learned more about psychology and traveled exclusively to new places (Czech Republic, Bratislava, Vienna, the Swedish mountains, Amsterdam and Gdansk). I kept working on my book about mental health and went to the University for my final semester before becoming a behaviorist. Well, the semester doesn’t officially end until January 2019, but it still feels like an end. It’ll be a new year with new beginnings.

I love to look back on all the photos from 2018. However, I must say it was quite difficult to pick out only a few from all the ones I loved. So instead of calling them my favorites of 2018, I’ll just call them some of my favourites. I hope you like them too and that you get to spend New Years Eve with the people you love!

 

Ali Ghafori in Stockholm

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Ioulia Koua in Stockholm

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Isabelle Åberg in Stockholm

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Weronika in Stockholm

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Me in Stockholm creating photos for my book in the ice cold winter


 

My friend in Stockholm with headpieces made by me

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Ioulia Koua in Stockholm

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Ali Ghafori in Stockholm

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Me in the Swedish mountains

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Me in the Swedish mountains (behind the scenes)


 

Isabelle Åberg in Stockholm

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Weronika in Stockholm

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Ioulia and Ali in Stockholm

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Banksy Pranks the Art World

Recently, the anonymous street artist known as Banksy pulled off one of the most fascinating pranks in the art world: when one of his paintings was sold for almost $1.4 million at Sotheby’s auction in London the painting self-destructed. Yes, immediately after it was sold it began shredding itself. The spray-painted art piece was titled “Girl with a Balloon” from 2006. After the final bid an alarm went off and the attention was drawn to the painting. It was shredding itself. Banksy has since published a video showing how he built in the shredder into the bottom of the frame.

Apparently, the mechanism built into the frame was remote-controlled and shredded the painting with the touch of a button. The attendees were obviously amused, pulling out their phones and cameras to snap photos of the astounding event with smiles on their faces.

“Going, gone, gone” – Banksy

 

Sotheby’s says they’re discussing with the anonymous buyer of the painting how they’ll proceed. At the moment, the art world is trying to figure out whether or not the painting’s value has actually increased or decreased.

“We’ve been Banksy-ed,” Sotheby’s European head of contemporary art Alex Branczik says. “We are busy figuring out what this means in an auction context. I’ll be quite honest, we have not experienced this situation in the past, where a painting is spontaneously shredded upon achieving a record for the artist”.

What do you think about all of this?

How Self-Compassion Leads to Healthy Body-image

Have you noticed how we’re constantly reminded of our appearances? Friends are talking about what they’re dissatisfied with, some find it hard to accept compliments, media is consistently showing us how we should look by encouraging weight loss, workouts and the “right” way to look just – you guessed it – right. Often, these idealized images of beauty are making us feel inadequate since these standards are almost impossible to meet. I believe it’s more common among women than men, but this article is for everyone.

So what should we do when we’re being overwhelmed by this negative information?

The answer is self-compassion. We need to change the way we think about our bodies and ourselves. Instead of critiquing we need to change to appreciation and care.

These are a few ways self-compassion helps:

 

The media information are being put into perspective

This is one a the biggest sources of body-shaming. Not only the tips and ideas to become “perfect”, but also the stupid comments made by people sitting behind their screens, using their time to be mean to others. When looking at images of very fit people, try to remember how much time they’ve put into making their bodies look like that. But more importantly, remember how easy it is to manipulate images by making people look skinnier, more muscular or smoother. With the touch of a few buttons we’re now able to change our entire bodies before we post the photos. So don’t believe everything you see. And as a photographer, I can tell you that a lot of it has to do with shooting from the right angles. It can make a complete difference.

 

Self-compassion makes us aware of our physical state and appreciate our functions

If we only focus on what our bodies looks like, we miss appreciating how our bodies feel. That, in turn, leads us to not be aware of physical signs, like hunger, pleasure or pain. Not being self-compassionate makes us experience it from an outside perspective. Being self-compassionate will make you experience your body from the inside out – like you’re supposed to. Self-compassion has its roots in self-care and concern for our well-being, which makes us appreciate our bodies and motivate us to be kind to ourselves. This will also make us respect our bodies. And who wouldn’t want to feel like that?

 

Self-compassion will reduce self-punishment

If you aren’t self-compassionated you’re more likely to punish yourself for feeling undeserving. Like not eating the food you want because you didn’t get that workout done this morning.

 

You’ll se others as allies, not enemies

Self compassion will make you view others in a more humane way. You’ll realize that other people have their own struggles, and just because you believe someone is perfect it does not mean that they believe they are.

 

So just be kind to yourself, and others. It’s the nice thing to do.

 

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Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/in-love-and-war/201703/5-ways-self-compassion-promotes-healthy-body-image